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I’ve been a bit quiet of late…

February 6, 2007

… but only in blogland. In t’other world I’ve been busy - really, really busy. Part of me wants to blog this, but part of me is struggling with words. R. chose to go to school f/t in January, however, he is having no little amount of problems atm. Ahhhh, I can hear many of you say - then take him out and HE. Well, no actually, I don’t think that is the best thing for him right now as his behaviour is becoming steadily more and more ‘eccentric’ and to be frank, being at home wasn’t helping any either. A few phone calls from school and the picture isn’t exactly looking much brighter, except that the school seem to be being very, very helpful, to the point where teachers have actually given him a lift home. It’s all rather complicated and I don’t really have the words to go into it right now, save to say that he seems to be taking a downturn again, however this time there’s more people to see it, so perhaps there might be more support?

Added to that I’m studying a HNC in Early Years with the hope that it will lead to a degree and am having serious thoughts about bridge-building with the LA on the HE front, amongst ‘other things’, but this is taking quite some thought as to how best to move forward - so there are some positive things happening amongst the gloom :)

On the knitting front there’s a lovely hooded jumper in Debbie Bliss Cashmerino Aran on the needles. Inspired by a pattern on Knitty, but never quite being satisfied I’ve changed it from a cardi to a jumper and have had a fiddle with the hood. It should be finished soon :)

I also know who my Secret Pal has been - she’s here: Chickenlips Knitting - so a great big thank you to her for being such a wonderful Secret Pal!

hurrurmph!

October 13, 2006

Because at the moment that’s mostly how I feel, I have a cold which is giving me a permanent headache (not helped at all by R. spending most of the day complaining…)

My grandmother went in for a mastectomy today (she was diagnosed with cancer a few weeks ago). I desperately wanted to go over and see her before she went in, but as she’s in Norway and Ned doesn’t have a passport, there was no way of organising it quickly enough. So not particularly happy atm.

R. going back to school (not that he’s there yet) has really knocked me for six. He says that he wants to be there but we (Rik and I) have severe reservations about whether this is the best thing, not least the fact that it wouldn’t be our first choice of school for him - but every concern we had was hushed down by the HE ‘advisor’ and the SEN bod at the recent multi-agency meeting, because local provision for young people on the autistic spectrum is ‘excellent’ (cough, cough).

I know what they said was bollox (to put it politely) and this has been backed up by a number of people (not just HE-ing folk, anyone with an ounce of common sense who knows R. will be rather cynical about school for him).

However, the fact of the matter is that I have reached the end of my tether with him here (and part of me wonders whether he is being so incredibly obnoxious atm to drive home the point that HE wants to go to school). TBH as he is atm I’m rather thankful that he is going because I certainly don’t want him here 24/7 (not least as he winds up and thumps his little sister, which is very far from acceptable and there’s barely anywhere I can take him where he won’t end up throwing a screaming tantrum or shouting very loudly at me, or other people for that matter). Of course he doesn’t see at all that we are simply very worried about him and just rants and raves louder.

If he was my partner, I’d leave.

Not kidding. We’re talking a certain level of abuse here and I am really at the end of my tether.

But he isn’t my partner, he’s my son and regardless of the fact that he is convinced that he is ‘head of the household’ and that everyone should do what he says and if they don’t they are contravening his human rights - of course, he spares little thought for what anyone else might feel or need - I have to keep on trying.

So the headache continues and I’m very cynical as to whether it’ll improve once he is at school - I have grave doubts that it will - still, I’ve been proved wrong before… All we can hope for is that it is a welcome break and that he really enjoys it and that maybe he might come home a bit happier.

Isn’t that the best that any parent can wish for?

Needle-felting.

September 19, 2006

An Irish Craftworker has been needlefelting lovely stars :) She also makes felt birds, fish and bowls (I really like the birds).

Yes I really should stop mooning over other people’s talent and get off my bum a bit more and do some more for myself, but it is so much easier drooling over other people’s work :D

Funnily enough, yesterday I had a mini splurge at Ottakars yesterday and bought R. and me (as R. wants to have a go) a book on Feltmaking and a Beginners Guide to Stumpwork. I also bought Vols. 11, 12 and 13 of Ultimate X-Men ;)

R. had an appt. with an Ed. Psych yesterday and I will be complaining :( She asked questions as if R. wasn’t sitting next to me and at one point told me that: “Children cannot be taught at home.” When I pointed out that R. had been taught at home for a good few years now, she said, “So the LEA has arranged a tutor.”

NO! NO! NO!

Arrrrrghhhh!

So I quoted some law at her, but don’t hold out much hope on the report at the multi-agency meeting next week.

Ho hum.

*Still* I know that the two of the people who will be at the meeting are supporting HE, although a possible p/t attendance at school is possible (and tempting at times). It’s all so up-in-the-air atm.

Still, grrrrrr to bloody annoying psychs.

Interesting news story:

August 2, 2006

Call for a later start at school (with a couple of other interesting stories in the right hand column linked to from that article).

Erk’s first day back…..

September 19, 2005

…. went very well. I had a brief word with the teacher just to fill her in on the basics we’d covered in maths and literacy - as I hadn’t even looked at the National Curriculum until very recently to see whether there was anything Erk might’ve missed here. She seemed a little surprised that I’d bothered to do so.

In maths they were counting in various different numbers, so Erk, having just started decimal fractions at home said that this was a bit easy. They also looked at different states of matter - which Erk said he remembered well enough too. He could explain what made solids turn to liquids and then gas but couldn’t remember at what temperature water froze or became steam. Apparently the story being read is The Lion, The Witch and The Wardrobe and he seemed very impressed with that (as I got a brief history of the story so far). Although he couldn’t remember the title, I managed to piece it together by the names of the children, the fact there was a wardrobe and a snow witch/queen.

Then it was a quick back home and chill before he went off to Cubs on a night walk around the village.

R. was a bit ‘off’ this morning, but I think he enjoyed the extra attention. He’s just finishing up on Norse Myths and I’m planning to have a bit of a whizz through basic form drawing before returning to Botany in October. I’ve been busy putting together a new schedule and have uploaded it as a word doc: Schedule 2005. I’ll be adding to it (as ever) as more ideas come to me and doubtless I will stumble across useful bits online. I showed him the plan for a general ok and he seems fairly happy with it so far.

Apart from a bit of knitting, that was about the sum of it today, just hope I can keep the earlier mornings up ;0)

Breakthrough bedtime

September 16, 2005

For the second night running Nin has gone directly to her own bed. Admittedly it’s directly next to ours, but as my rapidly expanding girth has been causing some space issues in our bed even without the magical expanding toddler in it (how do they fill an entire double bed?) her timing is great.

She still wakes up and panics if I’m not in my bed, but even with a 2am wake up flop on me and snuggle, she still finds her way back to her own bed by the time I wake up again in the morning.

I must take some more photos, but as this blog is looking a bit bare, thought I’d post the one of Nin trying to knit:

On the HE front it’s been decimals and converting fractions into decimals. Both boys seem to be really enjoying this and even R. has managed to muster up some enthusiasm for a previously disliked subject (sometimes it just takes something to ‘click’ into place and the rest doesn’t seem so bad after all). It’s been a funny few weeks anyway, what with Erk deciding to return to school, leaving me a bit unsure of what to suggest to do in the meantime. So planning to start fresh with R. on Monday once Erk starts back. It will be very strange not having Erk at home, but I suppose this might benefit R. a bit and atleast it’ll be one less person for him to argue with, so day-to-day life might become a little more peaceful. Might be good for all of us :0)

A very nice day

September 15, 2005

Despite the very heavy rain (that only really kicked in as I was getting off the bus in the next village to go to the parent & child group I co-run with Kris the day went very well.

The group had lots of freeplay with finger painting and ‘making leaves’ on offer, followed by some lovely homemade ginger biscuits made by one of the mums, apple juice, banana and apple, followed by lots more play and finally circle time. Nin loved it again!

There was excited talk of future craft projects (amongst other things) and then I popped to the little bakery across the road to pick up some bits for lunch at Kris’.

I may have mentioned before that Nin has a habit of sticking her hands down my top (and up on occasion). Kris’ youngest watched this and stated, “Nin is sticking her hand down you top.”

To which I replied, “Yes, she does that sometimes.”

Nin moved off to the side and then Kris’ youngest clambered up and thrust her hand down my top too (blush), followed by the gentle,

“Thanks but no thanks.” and gentle removing of said child :0D

I hasten to add at this point that for those that don’t know, both Nin and Kris’ youngest are just two and almost two, so haven’t quite grasped the social niceties (or rather lack of) of doing such things. It was rather funny then.

It was obviously a day for affectionate climbing as later she wanted to sit on my lap next to her mum (who was on the PC), the bouncing was a little uncomfortable and Kris explained that she needed to be careful as there was a baby in my belly.

This caused quite some confusion…… lifting up my top she demanded, “I want to see the baby.”

“Well, you can’t, the baby is inside my tummy.”

“I can’t see it!”

“Well no, it’s under my skin.”

She did not look convinced….

I then kept catching her staring at my belly.

Hmmmm, that might lead to some very *interesting* conversations for Kris (LOL)

Was rather impressed that Erk remember that you could get syrup from trees and had a discussion with Kris and her eldest daughter about tree sap. Learnt that the berries which my mum didn’t know the english name for, but which are fairly useless for eating anyway are called crowberries and also the history of Fat Hen (the plant). I didn’t bring my knitting as with the rain and other bags that needed carrying it would’ve got soaked.

I hid from the pouring rain all afternoon until Rik picked me up and we went over to pick R. up from his nan’s, then home for a ready-cooked meal (slap my wrists - but I had just picked up frozen stuff from Kris’ and it was all frozen meat etc. as I generally cook from scratch , but that wasn’t going to happen tonight) and then catching up on over 500 e-mails (most of which I did delete - that’s what comes of not checking last night and also reading them this morning) and trying to get a few bits done, so I’m off to continue and chat on MSN.

‘Twas on the Beeb yesterday:

September 9, 2005

Classroom role-playing limited
Young children are missing out on imaginative games in school because of the demands of the curriculum, a study suggests. Playing pirates, princesses or mums and dads can be very good for a child’s development, says Dr Sue Rogers of the University of Plymouth.

But she found the set-up and demands of the classroom mean opportunities for such role-play are limited.

The government insists young children in school are learning through play.

Dr Rogers studied 144 four and five year olds in three areas of south-west England in a year-long study funded by the Economic and Social Research Council.

She watched children in reception classes doing role-play games and canvassed them on what they liked to do. Dr Rogers found that the classes were not always designed to meet their needs.

“‘Children of this age learn to make friends as well as to use their imagination through role play,” she said. “We know that they are capable of sustained and complex imaginative play and that capturing and engaging their interest is essential. Unfortunately, pressures on time and space, as well as the need to teach literacy, means that playing at shops, pirates and hospitals is difficult to fit into the timetable.”

She said children were often frustrated to be called away from a game with their friends to do more structured school lessons. Boys might find their games are seen as too boisterous for the classroom setting.

The children’s games tended to follow gender patterns, she said, with girls often opting for a nurturing-based game such as mum and baby, while boys were more interested in being action heroes, despite teachers’ efforts to ‘de-gender’ role play.

Her report says role play is valued highly by both children and adults and that it can make “a significant contribution” to learning and development.

“However, the intervention of certain pedagogical factors often prevents children from realising its potential.”

It suggests there is a need for more outdoor play spaces so that children could have more choice over materials, locations and playmates.

This could encourage girls to take a more active role in building activities and allow boys’ play to develop without disrupting people around them.

A spokesman for the Department for Education said: “It’s completely wrong to suggest that children are missing out due to the national curriculum. On the contrary, the foundation stage for three to five year olds is all about learning through play with enjoyment and challenge - enabling children to develop the key skills needed for all future learning.”

Margaret Morrissey, from the National Confederation of Parent Teacher Associations, said many parents were concerned about a lack of play in school.

“We would like to see less emphasis on keeping small children focused on classroom working,” she said.

“We know as parents that young children learn at their best when they are learning through play. We are putting too much emphasis as a nation on formal learning for very small children.”

Link to article (and video clip)

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Well ’spokesperson for the Dept. Ed’, I beg to differ…

I really could rant on about this as I think that many ‘learning through play’ activities are also really formal learning prettied up a bit so that teachers can tick boxes that will make policy makers happy (and I could rant on a bit about what I think is over-prescription for teachers too, quite frankly IMO I don’t necessarily see their jobs getting any less bogged down in paperwork - big ((((hugs)))) to any frustrated teachers too.)

Of course for anyone who agrees, there is always an alternative………. children don’t have to go to school! Keep them at home for a while and then re-assess, not sending them in the first place doesn’t mean you can never send them in the future and with a 9 year old due to return to school - his choice and no, I’m not 100% about it but at the same time I don’t want to forcibly home-educate because that would go even more against the grain for me - I’m sure academically he’ll do just fine. I know of parents who have delayed school entry to 7 years and their children have had few problems having started school at a later age - so it can be done!

Still, R. is happily chugging away at home and will continue to do so and I have a little Nin and bump who at this point will never go to school and I’m already looking at all the possibly alternatives within home-education.

Suffice to say - let them play, in your heart you know it makes sense!

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